The challenge that many people face coming from darkness into the light is the orphaned heart. People are unable to see who God is with a clear lens. We don’t have an understanding of his heart toward us. (This is the disconnect for unbelievers, too.) The separation from God (due to sin and death in the spirit) for whatever time frame of life has to be unlearned. It is 10x harder if the natural father image is tarnished by abusiveness or absenteeism.

Another thing that complicates the issue of the orphaned heart is the fact that many people who claim to be leaders and gatekeepers in the faith still have orphaned hearts also. The image that is painted of God is still that of a distant angry king and ruler… Not a loving Father.
God sent the spirit of Adoption for this reason. Roman 8:15 AMP says

For [the Spirit which] you have now received [is] not a spirit of slavery to put you once more in bondage to fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption [the Spirit producing sonship] in [the bliss of] which we cry, Abba (Father)! Father!

Before we (any of us) can fully and purely be who we were created to be and fulfill every assignment we are called to, we have to resolve the orphaned heart issue, moreover the fatherhood issue. We have to truly receive the spirit of adoption.The most dangerous thing in the world is for someone to have a title but no identity.Before Jesus did anything ministry-wise, Yahweh announced and affirmed him as his Son. (Matthew 3:17).

We have to be settled as daughters and sons of God (Yahweh) before we assume any office or any assignment post. We have to know His heart toward us. Otherwise, instead of functioning in the role of the office or assignment post, (inside of the church or on behalf of the King in other places) we spend that time working through our identity issues. People, often, occupy spaces that they are not emotionally and psychologically prepared for to prove something or to feel acceptance. However, character issues always end up coming to the surface. The spirits of rejection, abandonment and insecurity always find ways to rear their ugly heads. As a result, the office’s reputation is then marred because of the behaviors of an unqualified incumbent.

Unearthing our orphaned heart can be a very tedious job. There are so many habits that we have to unlearn and new behaviors that we have come to learn when we come into the knowledge of the Father’s heart toward us. Many people get stuck in this place because of the process. They resolve to stay on the “servant of God” level.

The truth is that servants (slaves) can work for a King. They are often around him. They spend a great deal a time in His house. They feel like they know Him well. They feel loved by Him. Some people settle with just being a servant because they have no risk in opening up and being vulnerable. The reality is that there is no inheritance for a servant. The other hard truth is, only sons can represent a King. Kings entrust the official business affairs of their kingdom to their offspring (not the workers that tend to the menial duties of their estate).We can’t really expand the Kingdom without knowing the King’s heart. He gives his heart to His sons. He makes his sons co-regents and co-heirs. He shares His glory with sons.

You have to solidify [understand and flourish in] your role as a son and really embrace God (Yahweh) as your Father in an intimate and trusting way.The beginning process of becoming a son is not that complicated. John 1:12 tells us

But as many as received him, to them he gave the power to become Sons of God.

Having a large family of children was always on Yahweh’s mind. He has a really large and perpetually expanding kingdom that he needs to share and staff. As all Kings, he wants to share that with His SONS!  Romans 8:29 AMP says

For those whom He foreknew [of whom He was aware and loved beforehand], He also destined from the beginning [foreordaining them] to be molded into the image of His Son [and share inwardly His likeness], that He might become the firstborn among many brethren.

I implore you, before you take that office or assignment, check to see if you still have an orphaned heart. Ask yourself, am I going to lead people to God by fear of his wrath or by the demonstration of His Love? Am I acquainted with Him as my Father or do I just know Him as the Almighty God? Do I know His heart for this assignment or do I just know the duties of the role I am in?

It is completely okay to identity where you are in relationship with the Father. You will be better for it. The people you are called to lead/serve will be better for it.
Sonship is the single-most important issue. It is the main point after Jesus dealt with the penalty and power of sin. The whole ministry of reconciliation is about restoring our relationship to God as our Father.

Be completely reconciled. Fully embrace His Love. Your life won’t be the same!